Making the Road Less Lonely
So Many Books, So Little Time
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Any internet search on Palliative Care, dying, grief, or bereavement will leave you reeling as to which to choose. Despite being so many to choose from and every book will brings something different to different people, we have tried to make the selection process a little easier.
The following books are highly recommended by the Palliative Care community. They are available through Amazon.ca, the Overdrive library app, your local bookstore or library.
If you have come across a book that you think might be helpful to others travelling the path towards end-of-life, please let us know. We are always looking for new resources to add to our list so that others can benefit.
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Advance Care Planning
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A Caregiver's Guide: a Handbook About End-Of-Life Care
A helpful guide for family about the end-of-life journey that their loved one has embarked on
Written by Karen Macmillan
Published 2004 by Canadian Hospice Palliative Care Assn
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CEO of Everything
This book helps the reader learn how to survive loss, what works and what doesn’t, how to deal with it all, and how to embrace the fact that you are in charge
Written by Gail Vaz-Oxlade & Victoria Ryce
Published 2016 by Collins
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The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning
This process of clearing out unnecessary belongings can be undertaken at any age or life stage but should be done sooner than later, before others have to do it for you
Written by Margareta Magnusson
Published 2018 by Scribner
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Grave Expectations: Planning the End Like There's No Tomorrow
Full of humorous and poignant funeral stories and first-person accounts, this book is the ultimate handbook of creative suggestions for realizing one's final wishes. This book gives people permission to memorialize their lives on their own terms and in their own ways. Who knew arranging a funeral could be fun?
Written by Sue Bailey & Carmen Flowers
Published 2009 by Cider Mill Press
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In the Shadows of Angels
With over 20 years of work as a hospice counsellor, author Dr. Breiddal, has collected stories of how ordinary people face death and dying. In this living body of work she reveals the skills needed, along with the struggles and rewards of providing hospice care
Written by Dr. Susan Breiddal
Published Nov. 9, 2021 by Friesen Press
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Let's Talk about Death (over Dinner): An Invitation and Guide to Life's Most Important Conversation
A practical, inspiring guide to life's most difficult yet important conversation
Written by Michael Hebb
Published 2018 by Da Capo Lifelong Books
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My Personal Comfort Plan
This 26-page, beautifully designed guide and checklist will help you define your personal comfort wishes for your final months and moments.
Written by Chelsea Peddle
Published by Circlespace.ca
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Talking About Death Won’t Kill You: The Essential Guide to End-of-Life Conversations
The essential handbook to help Canadians navigate personal and medical decisions for the best quality of life for the end of our lives
Written by Dr. Kathy Kortes-Miller
Published 2018 by ECW Press
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What to Do When I'm Gone: A Mother's Wisdom to Her Daughter
Combining wit and heartfelt advice with quirky and colorful style, this illustrated instruction manual for getting through life without one's mom is a must have read
Written by Hallie Bateman & Suzy Hopkins
Published 2018 by Bloomsbury Publishing
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Grief & Bereavement
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Dying Well
Through the true stories of patients, it helps families deal with doctors and talk to loved ones to help make the end of life as meaningful and enriching as the beginning.
Written by Ira Byock
Published 1998 by Riverhead Books
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Final Gifts: Understanding the Special Awareness, Needs, and Communications of the Dying
Filled with practical advice regarding the requests of the dying and how to help them prepare emotionally and spiritually for death so they may live fully to the very end
Written by Maggie Callanan & Patricia Kelley
Published 2012 by Simon & Schuster
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Final Journeys: A Practical Guide for Bringing Care and Comfort at the End of Life
This book helps keep the lines of communication open, get the help you need, and create the peaceful end we all hope for from diagnosis through the final hours of life
Written by Maggie Callanan
Published 2009 by Bantam Press
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Healing Your Grieving Soul: 100 Spiritual Practices for Mourners
A practical guide of mourning activities based on meditation, prayer, yoga, and contemplative solitude to help deal with feelings of despair
Written by Alan Wolfelt PhD
Published 2009 by Companion Press
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"I Don't Know What to Say..." (16th Edition)
A self-help guide in communicating with and caring for someone who is dying or has a life-threatening illness
Written by Dr. Robert Buckman
Published 2005 by Key Porter Books
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The Long Goodbye: A Memoir
This memoir is about loss, the fleeting moments of life's joy, and how memory can lead us out of the jagged darkness of loss.
Written by Meghan O’Rourke
Published 2012 by RiverheadBooks
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Modern Loss
A wise and often funny book that offers insights and essays to help us cry, laugh, grieve, identify, and above all, empathize
Written by Rebecca Soffer & Gabrielle Birkner
Published 2018 by HarperCollins
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Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss
A book about how death of a mother affects daughters
Written by Hope Edelman
Published 2006 by Da Capo Press
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There is No Good Card for This
An illustrated guide that takes you, step by step by step, past the paralysis of thinking about someone in a difficult time to actually doing something (or nothing) with good judgment instead of fear
Written by Kelsey Crowe PhD & Emily McDowell
Published 2017 by HarperOne Books
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Grief & Bereavement for Children
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The Angel Told Me to Tell You Good-bye
A great tool for children to explain the experiences we call "death" and "reincarnation" if a family member has suddenly passed over
Written by Leia Stinnett
Published 1996 by Light Technology Publishing
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The Grieving Child
Offers practical, compassionate advice for helping a child cope with the death of a parent or loved one
Written by Helen Fitzgerald
Published 1992 by Touchstone
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Hey, Kiddo
A powerful, unforgettable graphic memoir about growing up with a drug-addicted mother, a missing father, and two unforgettably opinionated grandparents.
Written by Jarrett J. Krosoczka
Published 2018 by Graphix
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Someone I Love Died by Suicide: A Story for Child Survivors and Those Who Care for Them
Designed for adult caregivers to read to surviving youngsters following a suicidal death. The story allows individuals an opportunity to recognize normal grieving symptoms and to identify various interventions to promote healthy ways of coping with the death of a special person
Written by Doreen T. Cammarata
Published 2009 by Limitless Press
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We Were Gonna Have a Baby, But We Had an Angel Instead
This is a book to help children confront and manage grief over the loss of a young sibling. It can help you let your children know that the baby that was lost can still be remembered in a special way
Written by Pat Schwiebert
Published 2003 by Grief Watch
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Grief from Traumatic Loss
After the Darkest Hour the Sun Will Shine Again: A Parent's Guide to Coping with the Loss of a Child
A guide to take us through the process of grieving, from the effects of a child's death on the parents' marriage to what to say when someone asks, "Do you have children?"
Written by Elizabeth Mehren
Published 1997 by Touchstone
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After Suicide
Examines the dynamics of after suicide bereavement. With dozens of real-life case histories, it offers hope for survivors in maintaining their sanity and poise during this most difficult time.
Written by Eleanora Betsy Ross
Published 2002 by Da Capo Lifelong Press
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Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving the Death of Your Baby (3rd Edition)
This book covers many different kinds of loss, including information on issues such as the death of one or more babies from a multiple birth, pregnancy interruption, and the questioning of aggressive medical intervention
Written by Deborah Davis
Published 2016 by Fulcrum Publishing
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Making Peace with Suicide: A Book of Hope, Understanding, and Comfort
Designed for anyone who has lost a loved one to suicide and felt that sucker punch of grief; for anyone who is in pain, walking unsteadily, and considering suicide as an option; and for anyone who works with, guides, or counsels those feeling suicidal and/or suffering the profound grief from a suicidal loss
Written by Adele Ryan McDowell, PhD
Published 2014 by White Flowers Press
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The Unspeakable Loss: How Do You Live After a Child Dies?
No matter where you are in your grieving process, this book provides a space to mourn in your own way, and helps you understand how the death of a child affects siblings, other family members and friends, recognizing that we each grieve differently.
Written by Nisha Zenoff
Published 2017 by Da Capo Lifelong Books
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Palliative Care for Healthcare Providers
Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End
A practicing surgeon, the author fearlessly examines the ultimate limitations and failures-in his own medical practice and others as life draws to a close for a patient.
Written by Atul Gawande
Published 2017 by Picador USA
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The Complete Bedside Companion: A No-Nonsense Guide to Caring for the Seriously Ill
Offers warmth, encouragement, and practical medical, legal, financial, and emotional advice you need when caring for an ailing loved one
Written by Rodger McFarlane & Philip Bashe
Published 1999 by Touchstone
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Essentials in Hospice and Palliative Care: A Practical Resource for Every Nurse
A valuable textbook about the dying process, integration of a palliative approach​, enhancing comfort, providing psycho-social care, and caring for the care-giver​
Written by Katherine Murray
Published 2016 by Life and Death Matters
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Extreme Measures: Finding a Better Path to the End of Life
An ICU & Palliaitve Care physician, this book is telling of the journey to learn what patients fear more than death itself: the prospect of dying badly. She builds bridges between patients and caregivers, formulates plans to allay patients’ pain and anxiety, and enlists the support of loved ones so that life can end well, even beautifully
Written by Jessica Nutik Zitter, M.D.
Published 2017 by Avery
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Medical Care of the Dying (4th Edition)
Available at https://victoriahospice.org/how-we-can-help/online-bookstore/
A textbook over-viewing of the principles and elements of effective palliative care. It features 26 contributing authors, 687 pages, 2,700 references and over 300 tables and figures
Written & published 2006 by the Victoria Hospice Society
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Palliative Care at Home
Available at https://victoriahospice.org/how-we-can-help/online-bookstore/
A resource for family or other caregivers that provides information and education to allow sound choices throughout the palliative care process.
Written & published 2013 by Victoria Hospice Society
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Transitions in Dying & Bereavement: A Psychosocial Guide for Hospice Palliative Care (2nd Edition(
Available at https://victoriahospice.org/how-we-can-help/online-bookstore/
Newly revised, this award-winning textbook comprehensively and compassionately covers the key transitions that dying people and their families face, and effective interventions to facilitate these transitions
Written by Victoria Hospice Society
Published 2016 by Health Professions Press
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Misc Books
BC Seniors Guide
Available as PDF, ePub for ereaders, and in hard copy at https://www2.gov.bc.ca/gov/content/family-social-supports/seniors/about-seniorsbc/seniors-related-initiatives/bc-seniors-guide
A book-style compilation of provincial and federal programs with sections on benefits, health, lifestyle, housing, transportation, finances, safety and security, and other services
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